Delicious Poison - The Love Allergy & Addiction
The recent tragedy of Zaria and Shamarcus Carr has prompted me to share some thoughts on domestic violence. As a childhood trauma and domestic violence survivor, stories like these inspire me to seek and share wisdom from my own wounds. I feel like it's important to make a few points clear in advance of the thoughts I intend to share. The first is that beyond exceptional circumstances of self-defense, violence and murder are wrong. The second is that innocence is not a prerequisite to being a victim. In the absence of my previous statements, the following truths are easily mistaken for victim blaming; they're not. Toxic patterns are addictive, for both the perpetrator and their victims. Valid attribution of blame and true justice are elusive because responsibility belongs to generations that precede, and systems that fail people today. Frequently, victims are complicit in their own abuse. Accountability is not about guilt, but a reclamation of power. "Allergic ...